Testemunho do intactivista James Ketter : um depoimento dos mais pungentes e poderosos sobre o horror que a circuncisão significa realmente na vida de uma pessoa e a felicidade de ter conseguido a restauração desta parte que é um verdadeiro órgão em si mesmo : o prepúcio .
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" This is going to be a VERY personal post. If you don't want to know
intimate details of my life, and why I am so opposed to circumcision, DON'T
READ!
You have been warned.
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When I say I was damaged by infant circumcision, I should be specific.
There wasn't anything immediately wrong with the genital cutting I was
subjected to. My parents and the doctor were quite happy with the immediate
result, and frankly, other than a few hurtful comments on how short my penis
appeared, I didn't know any different as a child.
Puberty changed everything.
You see, it is impossible to tell how much penile skin a baby will need
when he grows up. His tiny penis isn't developed yet. Doctors have to guess how
much of the mobile structure of the penis to destroy. They often guess wrong.
The most common complications include removal of too much skin (like what
happened to me), and removal of too little, which causes other nasty
complications.
During puberty I experienced tight, painful erections. Without enough
slack skin, the bulk of my penis had been trapped my whole life. It made my
penis look shorter than it really was. When erections and my growth spurt
started this caused me a great amount of pain.
My penis skin literally split under the tension. I was left with less
than half the penile skin I should have had. No one noticed this, because
frankly, some kids are just less endowed than others. And, what parent is going
to try and get their child hard to see if he has enough skin? No, that never
happened. That would have been a whole other level of child abuse.
The growth and erections of my teen years left me with stretch marks and
awful scarring. Masturbation was actually impossible for me because of the
tight skin until I was 15 years old. Oh, I was horny as all the other teens,
but I just couldn't do anything about it because of the pain it caused me.
I never told my parents this, because, let's face it, teenage boys DO
NOT talk to their parents about their penis or masturbation habits.
With no one to talk to about it, I assumed that all my sexual problems
were my fault. I blamed myself for not being masculine enough. I blamed myself
for being defective.
Twice before I was 18 I tried to kill myself because of my perceived
failings as a male.
When I finally had sex, I was disturbed to discover I just couldn't feel
anything from my partner. Years of scarring and thickening of the skin left me
with an insensitive member that wasn't equal to the task. The only way I could
feel anything through my penis was during masturbation and with a death grip
that could crush full beer cans. A vagina has some grip, sure, but no where
near enough for me to feel what I ought to have felt.
This led to years of depression, self blame, and a lot worse. I had to
fake orgasms with women. It was devastating to my psyche. Eventually it was
just too much work, so the relationships would break down because of lack of
intimacy.
I came across foreskin restoration a few years ago, and it was a purely cosmetic
choice for myself. I had grown up around my intact cousins, and I always felt
my penis was wrong looking. The idea of hiding my horrible scars under a fold
of skin sounded really appealing.
Within the first few months of starting foreskin restoration I noticed a
change. As I slowly developed more slack skin, my penis slowly began to heal
for the first time since I'd started puberty. The more slack skin I had, the
better things functioned.
By the time I developed enough slack skin to again cover the glans
properly I was sold.
When the skin covers the glans the glans starts to heal and shed all the
thickened skin that has built up over the years. My sensitivity magnified a
hundred fold. Also, shedding the thickened skin and healing the glans allowed
the scaring around my meatus to soften. Pain I had had my entire life while
urinating suddenly disappeared. That pain was so constant and expected that I
thought it was normal. My mind had become accustomed to the pain so much that
it no longer registered. Suddenly not feeling a pain I had had my entire life
was a revelation.
Eventually I researched and discovered that I had been suffering from
Meatal Stenosis all my life. At nearly 40 years of age, I was finally cured of
it.
Foreskin restoration has reduced the look of my scars, improved the
function of my penis, and improved my overall mental, physical and sexual
health.
I have had enough foreskin now to know what both sides of circumcision
feel like, and it is no contest. Foreskin is simply better in each and every
way. There really is no excuse to remove a body part this valuable and
functional.
My own parents, when I was a child, were just like all the pro-cutting
parents I try and educate. They were convinced I was “fine.” I was a happy
child, and I didn't know any better. When asked, my parents were proud of their
decision, and would recommend it to their friends because of how happy THEY
were with the configuration of MY penis.
But they didn't know the reality. They never could, and never can.
Neither can you if you cut your sons.
When I hear men brag about their penis, and claim, “I'm cut, and I'm
fine,” I laugh, because I know the truth. The more insecure you are about your
penis, the more you lie and claim everything is fine. Everything is fantastic,
“I am so very very happy happy with my cock!” It is a lie, and an evasion.
I know. I used to be the King of Denial. I used to say those very same
things. It takes a VERY brave man to admit his penis is less than it should be.
I would have walked into burning buildings, or into a war zone without
blinking, but to admit my penis was flawed was something I didn't have courage
enough to admit.
It took restoring my foreskin to finally make me admit out loud what had
been wrong for so very long. Now I brave insults and ridicule for spreading
education about the abomination that is genital cutting.
I'm sorry to say, if you cut your child, you will probably never know
the damages you have done. Boys and men are not wired to talk openly and
honestly with their parents about this. A man will die before he lets anyone
think there is anything wrong with his penis, or his masculinity.
You can claim, “my son is fine,” all you want, but you just cannot and
likely never will know the actual truth. He may not be able to face the truth
of this himself. More than to anyone else, he will lie to himself.
There is no way to know how much skin a baby boy will require for his
penis when he is grown. It is NOT something that can be predicted. Doctors have
to guess. They can and do guess wrong more than they guess right.
I speak out against genital cutting because I know first hand how
horrible and wrong it really is. I know what the circumcised child is missing.
I know what he can suffer. I know what you've put him at risk for. I've
experienced it.
I've researched every aspect of it, and there really is no excuse to
take this pleasure away from another person.
Make no mistake, the foreskin is erogenous tissue. It is more pleasurable
to have one than to NOT have one. It IS a valuable part of the penis. It is an
organ with specialized functions that make a man's life better. Its loss is not
insignificant. It is NOT just skin.
If you want I can give you more information about foreskin restoration.
PM me.
Don't just research circumcision. Research the foreskin.
If men were supposed to have foreskins they would have been born with
them. "
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